Posted by: purpleandrew | July 12, 2013

Three years past – a perspective

It is now just over 3 years since the start of Leslie’s chemotherapy and if you had said to us back then, or a month before when we waited for the operation that this is where we would be right now, I don’t think either of us would have done anything other than bite you hand off and take it.

I am not saying it has been easy, no Sir, it hasn’t, but, and I hope Leslie will forgive this one, it has not been really really bad. Oh I know when the chemo hit it was awful, she was in a lot of pain and discomfort, the side effects of vomiting and diarrhea were not something that either of us would wish again, but when you consider the alternative, I for one would have taken our lot and said it was not a bad experience.

We wouldn’t volunteer for it again, but if, heaven forbid, either of us needed it again, I don’t think there would be much negative thought before we said, okay. The one proviso to that is the oncologists prediction of like outcome.

Now, we are in a better place, but far from ideal, we are still skint and reliant on the State and in the current climate, that is a full time job and enough of a worry as it is. But, we are hear, together, still able to get cross with each other without it being personal or vindictive and hopes rise for what lies ahead.

Leslie is looking at going to University and I am writing books like I was shelling peas. I have been looking back at the posts on this blog today and one thing struck me. I did a post on 7 July 2010 entitled “Eyes Opened At The Beatson” where we saw a baby in arms being taken in for chemo by a young couple who looked as though their world had ended. In truth, although I do not know, I suspect that their baby, their precious child did not make it. I could be wrong, but part of me hopes, (that is the wrong word, I can’t find the right one, it probably doesn’t exist in English) that the child didn’t make it and it was quick and as painless as it could be.

If the child had made it, as a parent myself, I do not know if I could have stood the worry for twenty years, maybe even a lifetime, that one day, a normal childhood illness or fever wasn’t normal at all and “IT” had come back. It is tough enough worrying about them crossing the road, going to school, playing in the garden without that burden hanging over you day after day.

I do now know if i could have coped with that, so, as I said earlier, we would have taken where we are now and snapped your hand off to have it.

Such is life and it is not easy, even when things are going well, but when there is adversity, the strength of human courage and will really shows us what we are made of.

Perspective, it is all about perspective.



  1. Very inspiring story, glad to here that Leslie is in recovery. The UHNS charity have a lot of fundraising events to raise money for people with cancer that you might be interested in having a look at, this is there YouTube channel:

  2. Yes, there is no doubt about it, you are both a real inspiration to many, many people…. Especially Jacky and I ! Xx Margaret

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